Sext (noun: sėxt) A text with sexual content. Phone sex via texting. Can include descriptions of sexual situations and/or pics of ones self in sexual poses.
Sexting started with the early adapters. They would text suggestive messages late at night by hitting the number “3” three times to get an “F.” It was for people who wanted the suspense you just couldn’t get with a phone call. People eventually got tired of using their imagination and were thrilled when improved picture technology led to taking selfies in the bathroom mirror and texting a pic that showed some skin. It’s a huge turn-on to see someone getting naked and hearing graphic descriptions of what they would like to do with you. It’s even better when you can see each other.
Should you do it?
It depends on what your situation is. Are you already dating this person? Is there a chance they will share it? Would that bother you? Are you planning on getting involved with politics? Is your name Weiner?! Sending someone a private picture of your naughty parts requires a certain amount of trust. My general rule of thumb is to only share with people who share back… at least that way you’ll have collateral blackmail material. I’ve made a point of deleting pics of lovers-past and hope they have done the same.
Being sexually expressive is something most people can appreciate. Since 50 Shades of Grey became popular, more middle-aged people are getting comfortable exploring their fantasies. We all like to feel attractive and desired. Even Martha Stewart is into sexting. She’ll make you a quiche and then blow your mind in bed!
For most people sexting is a fun way to feel like an exhibitionist and to tease the person on the other side of the phone. When I get a sexy text from my lover it makes me want her and reminds me that when she’s alone she’s thinking of me. We spent some time apart when my job took me out of state and Face Time on the iPhone came in handy.
If you enjoy being sexually adventurous… give sexting a try. There’s nothing wrong with it. It doesn’t matter if you’re in a new relationship or you’ve been together for years. Being sexy with each other helps keeps the relationship fresh and fun. Describe what you want and get creative. It could lead to a real-life fantasy coming true.
– John Powers